sensitive child就是大概這麼一回事: http://pbpm.pixnet.net/blog/post/28242025

http://www.education.com/magazine/article/Raising_Sensitive_Child/

 

其實我就是個敏感性小孩啊,對環境很敏感,而且不能說重話那種,然後對別人的情緒很有反應,尤其是悲傷的情緒,我吸收的特別快,像小時候我都不能在睡覺前玩得太激烈,不然會睡不著,不然也不能看很刺激的節目,也會睡不著。ㄧ直到現在,我還是不能在睡覺前看刺激的電影或者刺激的小說,那天HBO在撥雨人,大概是九點多的時候吧,我ㄧ直到十二點多都睡不著(馬的,又不是看鬼屋,實在有點弱)。

 

我對味道特別敏感(跟我爸一樣),像東西燒焦了,所有人都聞不到,只有我聞的到,或者牛奶有點壞掉,別人也是喝不出來,我就喝的出來(一看果然過期兩天了),最扯的一次是讀研究所的時候有天同學開玩笑,把手罩在我臉上推我的臉,他手一拿開,我問他你是不是用Bath & Body Works的乳液,把大家嚇一跳。然後我會用味道辨認環境,常常天氣很熱,突然下大雨,泥土那種潮濕的味道,都會讓我想起小時候。然後辦公室冷氣輸出通到髒了我也知道(營運部經理說那都有定期清,不可能很髒,結果我非常堅持說裡面有塵蟎,結果一清,果然如此)。

 

然後我的情緒敏感,大概不用提大家看過我的文章大概也知道。

 

有次我跟前男友還在一起的時候,躺在他們家客廳沙發看電視,就看到北歐砍樹的事情(那種樹田,就把樹種來砍的),我忘記我們講到什麼,就起了一些爭執,他講話就有點大聲,我有被嚇到,他眼睛盯著電視一直講,講完回頭我整個臉都是眼淚把他嚇一跳,ㄧ邊擦我臉上的眼淚一邊跟我道歉,還ㄧ邊說事情真的有那麼嚴重嗎?不就砍樹而已?

 

可是我就真的沒辦法被人家用嚴厲的聲音講話啊,然後從小我爸媽對我說重話,我都會難過很久。(他們偏偏又是個愛對我說重話的人。實在是因為我爸太沒同理心,我媽神經太大條啊)像我媽之前批評過我說“那個誰誰誰問妳,妳媽媽對妳好不好,妳為什麼要說才怪。”(我記得那天那個阿姨問我的時候我才跟我媽吵過架)大概幼稚園還是小學ㄧ二年級的時候吧,我那時候超難過我媽居然這樣指責我,我到現在都記得;還有我媽說我一歲多兩歲的時候欺負一個鄰居弱智的小孩,說玩的時候把給他吃的東西放在地上,我那時候根本不覺得那是我會做的事情,為什麼我媽會這樣說我,我到現在都還記得(而且那個年紀的小孩子連自己大便都敢玩了啊,如果真的放在地上根本都不知道自己在幹嘛);還有我媽在我五年級的時候說我腿短,鼻子塌(因為我媽我爸我弟鼻子都很挺),這些我都31歲了都還記得很清楚。當然我媽誇過我很多,這也許是她無意間講的話,但是對於一個極度敏感的小孩來說,傷害真的很深。

 

我以前玩bbs,到後來pchome blog有的沒的,說明檔都是寫:i am an ordinary girl living in an extraordinary world.

 

我真的只是一個很平凡的人,但是很多很不平凡的際遇一直發生在我身上,對於我這種非常敏感的人,其實受到的震撼是比其他人都還大的,但是好像慢慢也就不停的調適而且走過來了,只是偶爾情緒還是會低落,容易有壓力,自我要求高吧。

 

總之,好或不好,一切都會過去的。

 

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  • Ted
  • 我之前做了一個算是統計的測驗, 他是一本書, Strengths Finder, 我組成最大元素就是Empathy, 以下是結果, 我覺得寫的很好, 給你參考一下,

    Shared Theme Description
    People who are especially talented in the Empathy theme can sense the feelings of other people by imagining themselves in others' lives or others' situations.

    Your Personalized Strengths Insights
    What makes you stand out?

    Because of your strengths, you are comfortable shedding tears at movies, weddings, funerals, or awards ceremonies. Your eyes can fill with tears when you are reading books, listening to speakers, or watching poignant -- that is, emotionally touching and moving -- news reports. It’s very likely that you spontaneously tune in to whatever another human being is thinking, feeling, or needing. Perhaps this awareness allows you to pinpoint some of the traits that make certain individuals unique. Instinctively, you occasionally take time to discover some of the likes, dislikes, hopes, dreams, or idiosyncrasies of individuals. You might gain satisfaction from telling people how much you value their contributions and accomplishments. Driven by your talents, you say you are a good trainer and instructor. You are aware of how a person feels at the start of a session. This enables you to adjust your coaching techniques to fit the current moods and interest levels of the individual. You probably take into account how someone reacted during your last encounter. You often detect subtle and not-so-subtle emotional and mental changes. Chances are good that you resist being moved to tears, especially when others can see them. You really wish you did a better job of containing your emotions.
  • Ted
  • Ideas for Action:
    1. Help your friends and colleagues be more aware when one of your peers is having a difficult time. Remember, most people do not have your ability to pick up on sensitive situations.
    2. Act quickly and firmly when others behave in a way that is unhealthy for themselves orothers. Understanding someone's emotional state does not mean that you must excuse this behavior. Be aware that when your empathy turns to sympathy, others might see you as a "bleeding heart."
    3. Partner with someone with strong Command or Activator talents. This person will help you take needed action, even though people's feelings might suffer as a result.
    4. Consider serving others as a confidante or mentor. Because trust is paramount to you, people are likely to feel comfortable approaching you with any need. Your discretion and desire to be genuinely helpful will be greatly valued.
    5. At times, your empathy for others may overwhelm you. Create some rituals that you canuse at the end of your day to signal that work is over. This will help buffer your emotions and prevent burnout.
    6. Identify a friend who has strong Empathy talents, and check your observations with him or her.
    7. Sensitive to the feelings of others, you readily gauge the emotional tone of a room. Use your talents to forge a bridge of understanding and mutual support. Your empathy will be especially important during trying times because it will demonstrate your concern, thereby building loyalty.
    8. Witnessing the happiness of others brings you pleasure. Consequently, you are likely to be attuned to opportunities to underscore others' successes and positively reinforce their achievements. At each opportunity, deliver a kind word of appreciation or recognition. In doing so, you are likely to make a profound and engaging impression.
    9. Because you are observant of how others are feeling, you are likely to intuit what is about to happen before it becomes common knowledge. Although your intuitions may at times seem nothing more than 'hunches', take conscious note of them. They may turn out to be valuable assets.
    10. Sometimes empathy does not require words at all. A kind gesture may be all someone needs to be reassured. Use your Empathy talents to nonverbally comfort others with a glance, a smile, or a pat on the arm.
  • 謝謝你的分享啊

    比較敏感的人適合當藝術家作家音樂家之類的職業吧 因為對事情感觸會比較深刻 然後知道怎麼把那樣的情緒轉化出來影響別人

    其實我覺得我挺厲害的 哈哈 因為神經都已經比一般人敏感了 可是經歷過的挫折比大多數的人還多 得到的就是比別人堅強 (我爸也是)

    很久以前的文章有提過藍衫將軍有告訴我 他的DJ朋友就是學會如何築起ㄧ道牆 能夠讓自己的情緒去感染別人 可是不讓自己的情緒被人家干擾

    身為一個敏感孩子 這真的是必學的課題啊

    mayaTPE 於 2010/04/17 11:56 回覆

  • Ted
  • 我想這對現在的我來說真的是一個最重要也是最難的課題吧, 如何去築起那樣的一道牆, 能讓自己的敏感度去體會別人的感受, 但是卻又不會深陷其中, 讓別人的情緒來影響到自己, 有時候主動關心以及被動關心就變成可能是決定的因素, 往往當自己太主動去關心某個人的時候, 相對的帶來可能是一種會有期待回應的牽絆, 或許在這之間的拿捏往往就變的很重要了...我也一直還在學這樣的心境轉變
  • 加油啊~ 這是需要練習的

    mayaTPE 於 2010/04/24 10:40 回覆

  • cida
  • 我很羨慕你是個敏感的孩子ㄋ
    我就從小神經超級大條 完全是一個tomboy
    牛奶除非真的很酸才會發現
    視覺 聽覺 觸覺 所有的感官 都超級遲鈍的
    每天 不管有多大的心事 都是5分鐘內睡著
    但是生活就少了很多細微的感動吧
    真的是很有趣的世界阿 友這麼形形色色的人
    所以看你的blog, 我可以發現更多生活的細節和感動
    這些都是大條神經的我不會發現的!
  • 神經敏感缺點很多啊.... 像如果下大雨 晚上我都睡不著 都要戴耳塞 或是走在路上會聞到臭味 大家都聞不到我就聞的到 那段路走的特別艱辛 所以說有利有弊啊

    mayaTPE 於 2010/04/24 10:43 回覆